Demographic
31 years old, male, kinsey 2
Goals
Leaning strongly toward wanting kids
Type of Guy
Zest for life / high hedonic setpoint, really into epistemic cooperation in the sense of strong injunctions against manipulation/witholding (as well as all the other "believing true things is hard" stuff), my "golden rule" / kantian intuitions run very deep so many asymmetries are on thin ice.
Seeking
Woman, romance, cofounder for parenting projects, spouse, housemate
Also seeking
Women, romance, intimacy, friendship
In Berkeley CA
Unclear where to buy house / raise kids, though, and willing to travel a bunch for the first few months of dating a serious primary/coparent candidate.
Swoonworthy traits
- Sincerity
- Analyticalness
- Conviction
- Compassion
- Ambition
- Introspectiveness
Irony is poison. I admire anyone who's above average in earnestness.
Reach out
- Email:
quinnd@riseup.net - Calendly:
calendly.com/quinn-dougherty - Would love to pivot to signal > sms > element/matrix > telegram > some mutual slack we happen to both be in after a brief exchange (I'm avoiding discord, I don't whatsapp or messenger)
Openers / conversation menu
- How to threatmodel asymmetriees in romance: like agency, intensity (energy, voice volume), your favorite big five trait, status/prestige, IQ, libido, etc.
- Affection styles / love languages
- Your (least?) favorite failure mode of "Radical Honesty" -adjacent practices
- How you think about the poly vs monog question
- One of your "strong view weakly held" current childrearing beliefs/strats that you want my help to double check as a research project.
- Assembling furniture with someone: is this inherently horny behavior or dependent on context?
