Demographic
31 years old, male, kinsey 2
Goals
Leaning very strongly toward wanting kids
Type of Guy
Zest for life / high hedonic setpoint, really into epistemic cooperation in the sense of strong injunctions against manipulation/witholding (as well as all the other "believing true things is hard" stuff), my "golden rule" / kantian intuitions run very deep so many asymmetries are on thin ice.
Seeking
Woman, romance, spouse, housemate
In Berkeley CA
Unclear where to buy house / raise kids, though, and willing to travel a bunch for the first few months of dating a serious primary/coparent candidate.
Swoonworthy traits
- Sincerity
- Analyticalness
- Conviction
- Compassion
- Ambition
- Introspectiveness
Irony is poison. I admire anyone who's above average in earnestness.
Reach out
- Email:
quinnd@riseup.net - Calendly:
calendly.com/quinn-dougherty - Would love to pivot to signal > sms > element/matrix > telegram > some mutual slack we happen to both be in after a brief exchange (I'm avoiding discord, I don't whatsapp or messenger)
Openers / conversation menu
- How to threatmodel asymmetriees in romance: like agency, intensity (energy, voice volume), your favorite big five trait, status/prestige, IQ, libido, etc.
- Affection styles / love languages
- Your (least?) favorite failure mode of "Radical Honesty" -adjacent practices
- How you think about the poly vs monog question
- One of your "strong view weakly held" current childrearing beliefs/strats that you want my help to double check as a research project.
- Assembling furniture with someone: is this inherently horny behavior or dependent on context?
