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Demographic

31 years old, male

Type of Guy

Zest for life / high hedonic setpoint, really into epistemic cooperation in the sense of strong injunctions against manipulation/witholding (as well as all the other "believing true things is hard" stuff), my "golden rule" / kantian intuitions run very deep so many asymmetries are on thin ice.

Seeking

Woman, romance, spouse, housemate, cofounder for childrearing projects

Big five

Self administered, summer 2022.

In Berkeley CA

Unclear where to buy house / raise kids, though, and willing to travel a bunch for the first few months of dating a serious primary/coparent candidate.

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Traits to make me swoon​

Irony is poison. I admire anyone who's above average in earnestness.

Type of guy​

  • An ex once reported that I'm "really gung ho about the mortifying ordeal of being known".
  • I ran Taco Wednesdays at my house for a few months. Mainly canceled them because I went on a long trip, but plan to resume monthly rather than weekly as things stabilize.
  • Swam from alcatraz to SF.
  • Really psyched about work, generally enjoy being someone who works a lot.
  • Almost entirely vegetarian.
  • Baby fever, but don't do a lot of thinking about my parenting values because I'd rather do that thinking as a group project with a special someone.
  • Often singing and humming, hopefully a turning a loved one's name into song.
  • I have at least two mysterious backstories.
  • Yes the kidney tshirt is real.
  • One secret zest for life / high hedonic setpoint trait/behavior that it'd be more fun to surprise you with.

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Reach out​

  • Email: quinn.dougherty92@gmail.com
  • Calendly: calendly.com/quinn-dougherty
  • Would love to pivot to signal > sms > element/matrix > telegram > some mutual slack we happen to both be in after a brief exchange.

Openers / conversation menu​

  • Affection styles / love languages
  • Your (least?) favorite failure mode of "Radical Honesty" -adjacent practices
  • Assembling furniture with someone: is this inherently horny behavior or dependent on context?
  • How you think about the poly vs monog question
  • One of your "strong view weakly held" current childrearing beliefs/strats that you want my help to double check as a research project.

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